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Tiffany Writes's avatar

What a beautiful way to bless & honour life, allowing time & space to nurture and create whilst remembering grief as she sits within the walls of your heart, soul & home in all the ways.

Teenage years will most definitely sneak up out of nowhere & the little angels you have raised will morph into mono syllabic entitled beings who huff, puff & eye roll on the regular.

Your usual duties of driving them EVERYWHERE will give added delights that include ferrying to & from any number of parties or gatherings (and mark my words there is MOST DEFINITELY a difference) where if you even hint at queries pertaining to ‘responsible adult’ or ‘contact numbers’ you will be met with askanced facial features and indignant vocals like ‘you don’t trust me’ OR ‘you are the only parent being difficult’......

(sigh)

And then suddenly everything shifts again & your teenage humans turn into actual human beings again & don’t eye roll and they start to communicate with ACTUAL sentences & start showing gratitude towards you.

Best of all, those ties that bind when littlies, can return with a magnitude of blessings. They may grow up & move away but the conversations & the love is there.

You know you have got something right & your heart bursts with emotion & the biggest of loves.

🧡

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dee kawai tang's avatar

dear tiffany. you have just given us the cliff notes to parenting! could we please receive this PDF on the way out of the maternity ward? love d x x ps. "they may grow up and move away but the conversations and love is there" *sniffles*

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Emily's avatar

In the trenches of motherhood also, & loved reading this. It was also nice to read your words, & in the comments, that it’s more than ok to throw yourself at your kids.

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dee kawai tang's avatar

and thank you for peeking out of the trenches for a moment to be here. honoured that you have taken the time to read and comment :)

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Sophia Somerville's avatar

‘grief is another child of mine that i must nurse and accommodate.’ - revisiting this post today and this line hit me right in the heart. i, too, have a grief-child to take care of and it’s helpful to articulate it like this. your newsletter is a gift, dee. thank you for continuing to write it x

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dee kawai tang's avatar

o' hail the sweet grief children o' mine and yours! needed to hear this today *warm fuzzies* thank you xx

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Natalie Woods's avatar

Thank you for this beautifully insightful answer and the reminder that this phase is so fleeting ☺️ Can’t wait to read more questions and answers on this thread ❤️

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dee kawai tang's avatar

dear nat. this line from the insightful t.thompson :) -- "best of all, those ties that bind when littlies, can return with a magnitude of blessings"

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Natalie Woods's avatar

Two years deep into twin parenthood I feel this so much!

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